Insight For The Modern Man

As always, it’s good to hear from the men on the topic at hand. On any topic, it’s good to go to the collective wisdom of the men and see what is to be shared and revealed. This month we hear from the men posting on social media, in answer to this question: “What pains you right now?” How these men deal with this pain is up to them and their chosen path of “healing,” some which may include the work of grieving and some that may not.

Geoff Kole – That most police are hard-working decent people and one or two dumb asses have recently ruined the profession.

Bob Walker – Working 12 hours shifts at a job that is killing me because I need to make sure my family is OK.

Dave Parrish – My knees.

Eric James Metz – That I believe that Black Lives Matter, but also because of the synagogue shootings over the the past year, the rise of antisemitism and white supremacy. I want to say that Jewish lives matter too! We are all human.

Adam D. Rosado – Racism, White Supremacy, White people defending racism or countering with how their people suffered, unconscious bias, ignorance pertaining to racism, lack of growth in all communities, lack of growth in men’s organizations.

Jason Campos-Keck – Family courts still devaluing Fatherhood in 2020. : (

Bruce Carter – So I’ve been thinking about it for about five minutes and can’t come up with an answer. Outside of physical pain I’m actually pretty good. Oh don’t get me wrong, the world is totally f* right now. But when is it not for that matter. It is just getting better coverage this year. I can probably come up with about 30 things to complain about, but the reality is that my life is good and I’m happy…

Tom McCarter – It’s impossible to reach a consensus on how to make the world a better place to live in.

Jeff Franklin – Politics and political divide. Seems like anything you say to anyone will be interpreted to left or right.

Kraig Beale – I’m saddened to realize people are happy to be racist and call it heritage. That people are so easily manipulated by the media. I’m alarmed that people don’t realize the police state that we live in and the power of the prison industry and of the prison guard’s unions.

John D. Lozauskas – Just like in communism, everything that is found to be offense to some people is removed or destroyed. The purpose of those artifacts is to remind ALL people so it never happens again.

Pete Hymans – What pains me now is the fact that I have to struggle harder to divert myself off of the self-punishment that comes with focusing on what aggravates me, offends me or scares me – and make a decision on some/any positive action I can take to make the situation better. When I have the discipline to extract myself from the stress that comes from resisting things I cannot change, my life is much better and the “pain” turns into goal-making and steps toward success.

Art McCormack – The errors of my past that I cannot fix.

Steve Goodman – Seeing this country parting like the Red Sea.

Play To Live – My engaged ego is my greatest source of pain.

John D. Lozauskas – My Greatest Source of Pain is that our Organization is supposed to be about leadership and has now turned into one where the men can vote a leader out if he pushes them too hard to be great men. These very same males refuse to take any accountability in his success or failure. I might as well join a bowling league after doing the SMW in 1990 in MA.

Kent Holman – The absolute division between people and their inability to find a common ground.

Peter Szabo – That I am one day closer to death and have not been able to create generational wealth for my family. “Other than that Mrs. Lincoln, how did you like the play?”