Disclaimer: This article is written by a man for men. It is intended for men to read and understand in men’s language. It is a guide for men to navigate successfully in today’s society.
Freedom as a man.
As former VP of Special Operations, there are four pillars to our program. We believe that when working with each other, we need to have these four things for each of us to be successful.
- A safe place to tell the truth to each other.
We use the word “freedom” in many places. From vision, purpose and mission statements within many organizations, freedom seems to be a common theme. But what is freedom?
Freedom comes in many forms, but each man is entrusted to figure out what it actually means to him. Society defines it as the power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint. In order to practice being free as a man, there are steps to take to actually be free.
You need commitment. When you make a stand for what you believe in, and are willing to move forward in the direction that you choose, you are committed. Right or wrong, you have chosen to act. It is a powerful tool to have in your toolbox. A man who makes commitments is on the path to being free.
In order to earn that right to act, speak, or think freely, you must posses and practice Integrity. In the Civil Air Patrol, Integrity is defined as “Doing the right thing, even when no one is looking.” This carries a lot of weight in a man’s life. There are many opportunities to take a break, not do what you said you were going to do, or even sneak by without giving your best. Integrity helps you be consistent and trustworthy. A trustworthy, consistent man is free.
Discipline helps regulate human behavior. Every man possesses this quality. It is just a question of what those disciplines are. If you look at what you do consistently, it is a discipline. It could be a good thing like being in sobriety, or it could be the opposite. When I hear men say they are not disciplined, I tell them that they are, but perhaps in areas that don’t serve them. Do things that serve you and you will be free.
One of the greatest gifts our men’s teams give us is the opportunity to be able to tell the truth to each other. It is your truth, and no one can take it away from you. Telling your truth removes the restraints from you moving forward in your life. Telling your truth loosens the barriers so you can practice being the greatest man of all. Telling your truth to others in a safe place creates a forum for men to hear and give you feedback that you would not normally receive.
In summary, as the holiday celebrating our freedom approaches, it is a time to reflect and see where those four qualities are working in your like, and to see if you are making the difference that others before you have done, to make the world a better place for us all.
And, if you need help, give us a call, we work on it every day!
When Dave Plante ventures forth from his man cave, he is our resident expert in Men in Relationships. His insightful book is available for purchase at Amazon.
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