Advice, Knowledge And Insight For The Modern Man

Masculinity by instinctive nature is a movement toward freedom. Consider the masculine symbol – a circle with an arrow pointing outward, upward, like a dick wildly swinging through space. We are hard-wired with an instinctual rebellious nature that has us scorn our father figures as we come of age. You’re not the boss of me!

So let us embrace our timeless instinct toward freeing ourselves from the constraints – be it from the past, an authority figure, circumstance, culture… whatever it may be.

Am I Not Free?

  Rich O’Keeffe Contributing Writer   “Hey, Rich. Got a question for you. How free are you as a man?” An editor I know...

The 4th of July – A Portrait of America

Jim Ellis Editor Written as a birthday poem for our nation, this piece points to that which gives us the ultimate...

The Four Ingredients to Freedom For a Man

David Plante Columnist Disclaimer: This article is written by a man for men. It is intended for men to read and...

Father Teaches This Son Lessons in Freedom

Satraipal Fred Rai Staff Writer   I knew a man, a magnanimous sort of man, who found freedom in so many ways through...

Freedom Is …

Jeff Kidman Columnist Legacy Discovery Shaman Jeff Kidman brings to you exercises you can undertake anywhere, at a...

The True Qualities of a Man Who is Free

Eric Louie Columnist Eric Louie did the Sterling Men's Weekend in March 1995. Ever since he has been a proponent of...

Freedom From the Ego

Fred Boyles Columnist   My ego has a great purpose of keeping me alive and to that end it always wants to be right and...

The Unlocked Cage

Dylan Stewart Columnist   I remember a life long ago… feeling trapped. Lost, stuck, alone. Frozen by fear. Scared...

Fullness of the Spirit Lead Men To Freedom

Craig Jones Columnist In Tangled up in Blues, Bob Dylan sang about being given a book of poems by an Italian poet of...

Insightful Viewpoints

Dig For Your Truth Beyond The Story

Ed Aponte Columnist Before a meeting I was talking to one of my men.  I told him that I...

Speaking Truth to Power

Howard Spierer Columnist The Importance of creating an environment for your men can...

Increasing the Likelihood of Success by Changing One Word

Howard Spierer Columnist   Before you read beyond the next paragraph, I’d like you to...

Marriage is Not a Spectator Sport – Play Along

    David Plante Columnist Disclaimer: This article is written by a man for men. It is...

Ode to the “Do It Alone Mofo”

Dylan Stewart Columnist   Oh you grand specimen of man. You flawless and perfect...

The Context and Gift of Infinite Patience

Ed Aponte Columnist I often wake up with an urgent need to be present to the season of...

Get Over Yourself and Your Need for Convenience

In the April issue of Legacy Magazine, I presented some information about a new training...

Truth as a Tool for Self-Compassion

Jeff Kidman Columnist Legacy Discovery Shaman Jeff Kidman brings to you exercises you...

20 Overriding Truths for Our Men’s Team

Jim Ellis Editor   In last month’s edition of the Legacy Magazine, we perused through...

20 Inconvenient Truths About You and Your Men’s Team

Jim Ellis Editor   No, NOT an April Fools' gag … let’s see if these are truism for your...

Get Wise

Speaking Truth to Power

Speaking Truth to Power

Howard Spierer Columnist The Importance of creating an environment for your men can speak their truth to power. This lesson in leadership comes from a recent personal experience. In mid-June I was removed from my position within MDI, I believe not because of anything...

Enrolling Others into Action with a Simple Question

Enrolling Others into Action with a Simple Question

Howard Spierer Columnist   Previously I talked about owning your actions by moving from “I need” to “I want” and getting better connected to the “why” behind the things you choose to do. Well, it should come as no surprise to hear that unraveling the “why” is just as...

Fullness of the Spirit Lead Men To Freedom

Fullness of the Spirit Lead Men To Freedom

Craig Jones Columnist In Tangled up in Blues, Bob Dylan sang about being given a book of poems by an Italian poet of the 15th Century: And every one of them words rang true And glowed like burning coal Pouring off of every page Like it was written in my soul from me...

Leave It To Beaver Is Dead

Leave It To Beaver Is Dead

A man on my men's team recently sent back to me an email which I had originally sent him in 2009 around Fathers Day. What I had written was - - "I spent the bulk of Father's Day working. As you know (I think), I just got transferred to the Cambridge store (I've been...

The Unlocked Cage

The Unlocked Cage

Dylan Stewart Columnist   I remember a life long ago… feeling trapped. Lost, stuck, alone. Frozen by fear. Scared motionless in a life that no longer felt like mine. Every moment was torture. I was sure the beasts outside that door would pounce on me at any moment and...

This Father’s Role

This Father’s Role

  Dylan Stewart Columnist A fathers role… I was shaped by my father, and as a father I have shaped both of my children. Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse. But times are changing, and between the “me too” movement and the men’s movement, men are...

Dig For Your Truth Beyond The Story

Dig For Your Truth Beyond The Story

Ed Aponte Columnist Before a meeting I was talking to one of my men.  I told him that I had just gone out on a date the night before and how well it had gone.  He then asked me to tell him the best part of the night. Here's what I said: "So i was born in Puerto Rico...

The Context and Gift of Infinite Patience

The Context and Gift of Infinite Patience

Ed Aponte Columnist I often wake up with an urgent need to be present to the season of my life. What is it that I'm up to now? What are my goals right now, and where am I on my plan or path to getting what I say I want? I've realized the hard way that if I am not...

Scott Alling – In Honor of the Man

Scott Alling – In Honor of the Man

David Turk
Guest Writer

Scott Alling died in late May 2018 of cancer, leaving behind a wife, two beautiful young daughters and a formidable legacy.

It wouldn’t be cool for me to talk about Alling’s participation in MDI without speaking of Scott the man.

Some men like to be the hero; some like to hog the spotlight. Others don’t want to have anything to do with either of those ways of showing up.

Alling was none of those things. Not the knight in shining armor, not the one to grab center stage … and never one to shy away from being accountable.  Those of us who knew Scott knew that we could ALWAYS count on him to do what needed to be done when it needed to be done, in a way that would get the desired results.

Plato said:  the measure of a man is what he does with power.

If that is the case, there was no one I knew with more personal power than Mr. Alling, and what he chose to do with it was to build a beautiful family, create strong communities and craft lifelong friendships.    If you can’t tell by now, I trusted Scott completely with the strength he wielded, and I … and countless others … .are better men, women and children for being in that presence.

In MDI, as a member of his men’s teams, as a coordinator in the NJ region he represented and as a player on the international stage in which we operated … and most importantly, in his everyday interactions with those he cared about, we would know that when Scott said something it would get accomplished. We could walk away knowing full well that his word was golden. And that it would be accomplished with care, with love and with excellence.

Michael Landor had this to say when he learned of Scott’s passing:

“Alling had stated that he used to be a fighter, having his knuckles regularly bruised from bar fights.  Then he joined a men’s team – and from a fighter he had been transformed into a WARRIOR.”

Warren Zenna recalls:

“Scott was an incredibly powerful figure. A highly competent, an imposing, competitive figure and always somewhat aloof. He shared with me that his participation with the men’s division was a way for him to atone for a lot of the stuff he wrestled with in his younger years. He immediately took to the work here and naturally took on leadership roles. Scott oversaw numerous highly complex community service projects – bringing his engineering and mechanical planning skill-set to everything he did. He seemed to be someone who could do and handle anything – I thought of him as the kind of man that could plan the building of a city and I am sure that he could.  As the organization evolved and Scott’s personal business success expanded his involvement decreased, I missed his power and strength but over time our respective lives took us in different directions.  I thought of him often over the last eight years.  When I think of Scott I am reminded of a time of power and clarity and an almost innocence of purpose we had before life’s complexities – divorces, financial struggles -brought on the more sobering realities of our lives. Scott was a general among soldiers and I will miss his power and competence. We need more men like him in the world.”