Advice, Knowledge And Insight For The Modern Man

 OK kids – it’s time to get back to school!

Ahhhhhh! Remember the bummer of Labor Day because it was followed by a first day of class?

Though nowadays many schools return at the end of August, for this edition of the Legacy Magazine, we’re going with our September “Back to School” theme.

But these posts in this Legacy won’t simply address school days or any stories and glories found in there, but rather we’ll cover the overreaching concept of learning lessons.

Our circles of men in MDI have historically asked the question of men: “so what is the lesson?” Whether that be after leading a team meeting, succeeding at a task or failing at a task, it didn’t matter. There was no right or wrong when it came to simply being a man, a leader, a follower with the intention to grow personally into success.

So have at it.

September is here. School is back in session.

The lessons of life abound.

Let’s review…

Clearing Lists Leads to “Are We Good Now?”

Robert Mackintosh Contributing Writer   In considering the lessons I've received in MDI, I believe I'd come across as...

The Exponential Factor of Teamwork

Jim Ellis Editor Here is a simple story - one that reveals the greatest lesson I learned and applied, through being...

Pafko at the Wall

Craig Jones Columnist The third and deciding game of the 1951 National League pennant between the Giants and the...

Getting What You Want With the Power of Intention

Doug Ernst Reporter   “Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.” ―...

Not Engaging With Weaker Opponents

Abe Moore Guest Contributor In MDI we offer men many opportunities for personal growth, which includes leadership,...

The Power of Letting Other People Shine

Howard Spierer Columnist   For those of you who know me, it should not come as a surprise to hear that when I first...

Listening To Men’s Experience, Action, Greatness

Fred Boyles Columnist "What is the greatest lesson you have learned and applied through being with the men?” I call...

Suicide – A Dark Topic We Must Face

Howard Spierer Columnist   What follows is admittedly dark and some might judge as fucked up, so here’s my disclaimer....

Honor – Defining That Which Goes Beyond Words

Jim Ellis Editor An excerpt from the author's "The Honor Book," written specifically for men. The basics – OK, so...

Good Reading

The Power of Letting Other People Shine

The Power of Letting Other People Shine

Howard Spierer Columnist   For those of you who know me, it should not come as a surprise to hear that when I first joined this organization I was cocky and arrogant and had an answer for everything. It was at that time that I came to learn a very valuable lesson from...

Suicide – A Dark Topic We Must Face

Suicide – A Dark Topic We Must Face

Howard Spierer Columnist   What follows is admittedly dark and some might judge as fucked up, so here’s my disclaimer. These are my views, thoughts and opinions. They are not MDI’s nor the editors of Legacy. I own them completely. If you wish to discuss them, call or...

Pafko at the Wall

Pafko at the Wall

Craig Jones Columnist The third and deciding game of the 1951 National League pennant between the Giants and the Dodgers was decided by a ninth inning walk-off home run by Bobby Thomson. The hit, dubbed "the shot heard 'round the world," from a line by Ralph Waldo...

Memories of a Long-Ago Family Campout

Memories of a Long-Ago Family Campout

  Craig Jones Columnist I awake with that languid sense of not knowing where I am, hearing laughter, sounds I don't recognize, can't identify. The sea? Fire crackling? Dog yapping? I bestir myself and, unzipping the tent flap, emerge and do a quick survey. Karen and...

What Works on a Men’s Team?

Listening To Men’s Experience, Action, Greatness

Fred Boyles Columnist "What is the greatest lesson you have learned and applied through being with the men?” I call men who have left MDI, and I ask them to bring me up to speed on what's going on in their lives. Then I actively listen. After about 5-7 minutes if they...

Freedom From the Ego

Fred Boyles Columnist   My ego has a great purpose of keeping me alive and to that end it always wants to be right and not change. So where is the freedom from this? My ego has me say and do things that anger and hurt other people's egos, I engage their egos and then...

How Have We Failed As Fathers?

Fred Boyles Columnist   We live in a culture where the only opinion that matters about fathering comes from mothers and other women. We see it in many places, notably the family court system. The legal system has been co-opted by women’s fear of the crazy man who...

Where Can I Find My Best Friend

Fred Boyles Guest Writer     So what is right about MDI after 30 years on a men's team? From 8-14 years old I wanted a best friend. After 15 I thought a girlfriend or wife could fill that role.   I've even heard men say their wife is their best friend. A. First off, a...

How to ‘Be With’ Guests at our Team Meetings

Fred Boyles Guest Writer So imagine a situation where 12 men are dropped of at your next team meeting ... what will you do with them? Here are a few answers. Most men who haven't been truly initiated into manhood want to learn wisdom without personal pain. They drank...

27 Years of Being in Heaven and Hell

Fred Boyles Guest Writer After 27 years of being on a men’s team, having done most of the jobs, what have I learned? For one, teams can be both heaven and hell. Eighty to ninety percent of who am is hardwired. When I get upset with another man's action, it always...

Bring Back the Teams of “Dangerous Men” Keeping Masculinity Alive

Fred Boyles Guest Writer In 1988 during my Men’s Weekend, Justin Sterling promised we would lose in the feminization of the masculine spirit. My wife said it best: “You like to suffer and I don’t.” My wife was referring to who should wear a warm coat on a cold...

My Mother Healed Me On Her Deathbed

Fred Boyles Guest Writer A big part of my relationship with my mother was her lecturing me on the evils of fast food and how best to take care of myself. A tradition developed over the years: she would call me in transit to have me buy her a diet coke with a...

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Men Having Fun

Men Having Fun

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Asking the Question of the Day

Asking the Question of the Day




Satraipal Fred Rai
Guest Writer

 

For this edition of the Legacy Magazine, I was asked recently “What lessons have I learned from men?”

I then went onto Facebook and asked if anyone cared to chime in….

Comments below.

JW: Stand bold and strong and face your fears. Granted I learned this from the Male icons of our generation. This generation is fucked.
SS: Be your word.
ST: Feelings and the sharing of them are not only done by strong men but it makes them stronger.
PM: Denying your feelings either puts your life on hold or makes it worse.
AD: Here for a good time not a long time!
TN: Fear + survival = confidence.
AT: Be true to your self and your principles.
LD: That unfortunately, still in most men it seems that we are a weak kind when it comes to making selfish decisions.
PL: Us men don’t need a reason to justify ourselves, just be a man and be real!
TM: They taught me that what I think giving my best is … is not necessarily my best.
DP: All of the lessons!
MA: If I change what is right and wrong to make my wife happy, she will still leave!
IS: Take what you do for a living seriously, don’t take yourself seriously – Vincent Price
SR: I tell the truth to myself and about myself, then I do what I want because that’s what makes me strong and happy.
DH: To be a better man human being and spirit.
MG: Oh yeah the big one … don’t piss into the wind.
Keep learning. Keep growing. Keep sharing.
Clearing Lists Leads to “Are We Good Now?”

Clearing Lists Leads to “Are We Good Now?”




Robert Mackintosh
Contributing Writer

 

In considering the lessons I’ve received in MDI, I believe I’d come across as a monotonously boring droning-on dork, so I’ll spare you that treachery.

I want to talk, instead, about how to have a kick-ass team meeting. And here we go:

  1. Always bring cold beers for your buddies. This is the best strategy when trying to win a popularity contest.
  2. Stroll in late – showing up on time is totally uncool. If anyone gives you any guff about being late and suggests a cleanup tell ‘em to take a hike (feel free to embellish with colorful language).

I guarantee this will lead to the start of kick-ass meeting.

Speaking about kick-ass meetings reminds me about a meeting a few years back – maybe around 2009. There was a gentleman on my team that rubbed everyone all wrong. From my point of view he was self-absorbed, whinny as all hell, and didn’t seem to give a shit about me.

So it came to pass that he found out that I was talking shit about him behind his back. One day at a team meeting – at the check-in – he says he’s got a list to clear with me. I was aghast, appalled, even dismayed. How could this SOB have a list on me?!

Naturally I let lose with all form of insults, sparing no four-letter words. He returned the service. This went on for awhile. I finally calmed down. When it was over he says, “Are we good now?” I shrugged my shoulders – I didn’t have anything to say. He says, “OK, good. Now let’s get the meeting started.” And that was that.

Well, it probably doesn’t take doctorates in psychology (they’re a bunch of idiots anyway) to figure out that I was a walking “loaded gun” just waiting to unload on someone. I had the good fortune to unload on a seasoned MDI guy instead of, perhaps, my wife, my boss, a co-worker, etc.

I’m a lucky guy.

Perhaps that’s my biggest lesson.