September 2020

There is a common perception that men do not like asking for help. And whereas there is some truth to this, there is an organization – Mentor, Discover, Inspire – assembling teammates and teams that do just that: support each other to get through challenges and barriers, help men to realize their greatness and boost men towards successful families, careers and communities. This month’s edition of the Legacy Magazine embraces the act of getting support and help from “our men.”

The Legacy Magazine is creating a thread over a series of months leading us to our power to affect real lasting and positive change.

March –  “March Madness” and the emotion of anger.
May – “Men Facing Their Fears.”
June – “Confronting Your barriers.” 
July – The Power of Grieving
August – Whether to Forgive
September – Asking for Help  
October – Victory! – Your Biggest Wins  
November – Enrolling Others into Your Vision
December – Your Legacy
We’ll take it one month at a time and watch how it unfolds.
Ask For What You Need

Ask For What You Need

Dylan Stewart Columnist When I first found my way into men’s work I was a proud man. I was a single father. I was running a successful business. I didn’t know much, but I knew that I could handle whatever the world could throw at me. I had survived the suicide of my...

What Comes To Mind When I Need Help

What Comes To Mind When I Need Help

James Anthony Ellis Legacy Magazine Editor Whenever I look within and seek to discover the source of my fear, it doesn't take long for me to realize the core thought residing there. I am alone. When I am alone, I am in danger. When I am alone, I have no support in my...

In Time of Need, The Men Were There

In Time of Need, The Men Were There

Brian Childers MDI Contributor On March 1, 2008 I was on the way to the airport to fly to Sao Paolo, Brazil to teach a week-long COBIT Train the Trainer class ... when my mother died.  I was devastated. I was hurt to my very core – even though we were very...

Teaching The Lone Wolf Not To Go It Alone

Teaching The Lone Wolf Not To Go It Alone

Gary Wojciechowski MDI Contributor Asking for help from the men? Don't go it alone? That is a tall order for the "lone wolf," who runs alone in his own pack. Asking for help is hard for most in part because we men have a lot of pride. Many of us are lone wolves with a...

August, 2020

Whether to Forgive

The Key

The Key

Dylan Stewart Columnist I was trapped by guilt, trapped by shame in a torture chamber of my own making. In a fortress high above the world with no windows and no doors. Punishing myself every morning. Beating myself every night. Locked in a circle, a cycle of constant...

Body, My Playmate

Body, My Playmate

Craig JonesColumnist Every time I go for a run, I’m grateful for Danny. Every stride, every breath, every mile is infused with his teaching, and he was an asshole to me. Not always, but when he was, it really hurt. Not forgiving him was costing me and shrinking my...

The Beautiful Part of Forgiveness

The Beautiful Part of Forgiveness

Rich O'Keeffe MDI Contributor Ah, forgiveness. Certainly a huge topic these days. And a ton of side aspects and whatnot. I hear a lot of folks utter phrases like “I need to forgive someone” or “I forgive him for…” or the like. I believe that this misses the mark. Not...

Loving My Mum No Matter What

Loving My Mum No Matter What

Fred Rai Guest Contributor I love my mum, but it hasn’t been an easy road with her. It has taken years of forgiveness work to get where I am today. Forgiveness is a definitely a touchy topic. For me the hardest person to forgive so far has been my mother, who is...

The Last Illusion

The Last Illusion

Bernie Fitterer MDI Contributor We generally have been taught that we are only bodies in this human existence, and we hold strong attachments to things, titles, fame, money etc... If someone in any way diminishes us, as we are attached to a body and an ego, we tend to...

Doing the Work – A Forgiveness Worksheet

Doing the Work – A Forgiveness Worksheet

James Anthony Ellis Legacy Magazine Editor From the forthcoming book about forgiveness, atonement and freedom from Legacy Productions, this is an exclusive excerpt that outlines some simple but challenging steps towards a full and rich experience of true forgiveness....

FAMOUS QUOTES ON

Asking for Help

“State what you want, and go for it, don’t refuse yourself a request you did not make.”
― Bangambiki Habyarimana

“I’ve never been good with asking for help; it seems risky, but at some point when things are really dicey, your stubbornness gives way to a certain form of humility that, after you get over yourself, feels liberating. I started to believe that the universe was conspiring to help me finish my house, sending people along at the right moment.”
― Dee Williams

“It may sound paradoxical, but strength comes from vulnerability. You have to ask the question to get the answer, even though asking the question means you didn’t know.”
― Majid Kazmi

“Never let your ego get in the way of asking for help when in desperate need. We have all been helped at a point in our lives.”
― Edmond Mbiaka

“There is no weakness in asking. If we wait for someone to give us what we want, chances are we might never get it.”
― Abhishek Ratna

Don’t be afraid to ask questions. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. I do that every day. Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength. It shows you have the courage to admit when you don’t know something, and to learn something new.
– Barack Obama

Sometimes the loudest cries for help are silent.
— Harlan Coben

Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, What’s in it for me?
– Brian Tracy

I tried to groan, Help! Help! But the tone that came out was that of polite conversation.
– Samuel Beckett

The Christian life is not a constant high. I have my moments of deep discouragement. I have to go to God in prayer with tears in my eyes, and say, ‘O God, forgive me,’ or ‘Help me.’
– Billy Graham

Any kid will run any errand for you, if you ask at bedtime.
– Red Skelton

He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help.
– Abraham Lincoln

There are two things a person should never be angry at, what they can help, and what they cannot.
– Plato

We can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone.
– Ronald Reagan

Being self-made means putting yourself in position to help others put themselves in position to be successful.
– A Boogie wit da Hoodie

We need someone who is going to stand up, speak up, and speak out for the people who need help, for the people who have been discriminated against.
– John Lewis

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