June, 2020

There is pain over loss, pain over our current situation in our nation, pain throughout a lifetime. Often in addressing this pain, we can surrender into the power of grieving … if we are safe. Along these lines, the Legacy Magazine is creating a thread over a series of months leading us to our power to affect real lasting and positive change. Starting March 2020, we covered “March Madness” and the emotion of anger. In May, we covered “Men Facing Their Fears.” June was “Confronting Your barriers.” For the next few months, we’ll look at a continuum:
1. The Power of Grieving
2. Forgiveness and Atonement
3. Asking for Help  
4. Victory! – Your Biggest Wins  
5. Enrollment – Enrolling Others into Your Vision
6.Your Legacy
We’ll take it one month at a time and watch it unfolds. Be along and participate as we move!
It Is Never About The Surface Loss

It Is Never About The Surface Loss

James Anthony Ellis Legacy Magazine Editor Shit, 57, you couldn't knock that dying quail down? It all started with a pass play that never should have resulted in a catch and then a loss for the Miami Dolphins. It was December 21, 1974, the first round of the playoffs....

Good Grief! Motion as Health; Movement as Healing

Good Grief! Motion as Health; Movement as Healing

James Anthony Ellis Legacy Magazine Editor What happens when we grieve? There has got to be a reason for it. Right? We understand pissing, farting, belching, barfing. Everything makes sense there. Releasing of gas, toxin and piss. But this crying thing? Really weird....

Letting Go of Marci By Embracing Her

Letting Go of Marci By Embracing Her

Bryce Honstead MDI Contributor March 19, 2009 was the worse day of my life. My sister Marci died this day. And it was then I knew that life would never be the same. In an instant, in a moment, when it happened, I immediately felt completely lost. Scared. Alone. My...

Grieving In the Lonely Cave

Grieving In the Lonely Cave

Fred Boyles MDI Contributor I have been on a men's team for 31 years, and it has never gotten any easier when a man hides out. I've repeatedly told men via phone and texts that if they ever disappear, hide away or go into their proverbial "cave," they take me with...

What Pains You Now?

What Pains You Now?

As always, it's good to hear from the men on the topic at hand. On any topic, it's good to go to the collective wisdom of the men and see what is to be shared and revealed. This month we hear from the men posting on social media, in answer to this question: "What...

For the Tear

For the Tear

James Anthony Ellis Legacy Magazine Editor From the Legacy Productions' book "Tears: And Other Gifts from the Realm of Emotion." In 1996, a year before I did the Sterling Men's Weekend, I was deeply involved in the healing field, embracing specific techniques to heal...

Moving On – The Cost Of Not Grieving

Moving On – The Cost Of Not Grieving

Matt Coddington MDI Contributor When I think of grieving, I always associate it with a person who has died. Have I truly grieved the deaths of the people closest to me throughout my life up to this point? I have not. I’m not sure why. But I know deep down I haven’t....

Grieving The Loss Of My Dad

Grieving The Loss Of My Dad

Brian Childers MDI Contributor January 22, 1965 was the day that my father put a .45 Auto in his mouth and took his life.  I was 13.  It was the day that we got a telephone call that forever fractured our family and that began the downward spiral of my...

I Guess I’m Still Human

I Guess I’m Still Human

Sandt Litchfield Guest Contributor I sometimes question my humanity. Am I alive? Am I feeling? Am I too detached? Am I OK? Am I even human? I was inspired to write about the topic of “the power of grieving“ in relation to my dear Uncle Jacques, a man who was my friend...

My First Experience With Death Up Close and Personal

My First Experience With Death Up Close and Personal

Crawford Hart Guest Contributor My brother Marshall and his family had driven down to Pensacola from Memphis. Sue Jung, his wife really disliked my family, and the feeling was pretty much reciprocated. My brother’s daughter, a surprise from a former fling, was there...

A Fragile Peace in this Circle of Men

A Fragile Peace in this Circle of Men

Brian Childers MDI Contributor I am on a men’s team consisting of three white men and three black men. OK. So? I have been associated with the men’s work (through Sterling Men's Division and Mentor Discover Inspire) since 1991. That's 28 years, and this is the FIRST...

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Jeff Lawrence Loses to Win

Jeff Lawrence Loses to Win

Jeff Lawrence Legacy Contributor It was January 7, 2019, and I was so fed up with everything. I was fed up with feeling sorry for myself, fed up with feeling tired all the time, fed up with being sore all the time, and really fed up with saying I wanted to get back...

What Is Your Greatest Success in Life?

What Is Your Greatest Success in Life?

As always, it's good to hear from the men on the topic at hand. On any topic, it's good to go to the collective wisdom of the men and see what is to be shared and revealed. This month we hear from the men posting on social media, in answer to this question: "What is...

Our Own Creations, Our Own Success

Our Own Creations, Our Own Success

Dan Kempner Legacy Columnist I was skimming Saint-Exupery’s The Little Prince, seeking a quote for a piece I’m writing and, just like every other time I’ve read it, I choked up. The tears began somewhere around the third page.   As a writer, I am envious of such a...

FAMOUS QUOTES ON

Grieving

“Grief does not change you. It reveals you.”
― John Green

“Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form.”
― Rumi

“The darker the night, the brighter the stars,
The deeper the grief, the closer is God!”
― Fyodor Dostoevsky

“Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart.”
― José N. Harri
“They say time heals all wounds, but that presumes the source of the grief is finite”
― Cassandra Clare

“Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.”
― Leo Tolstoy

“In times of grief and sorrow I will hold you and rock you and take your grief and make it my own. When you cry I cry and when you hurt I hurt. And together we will try to hold back the floods to tears and despair and make it through the potholed street of life”
― Nicholas Sparks

“When someone you love dies, and you’re not expecting it, you don’t lose her all at once; you lose her in pieces over a long time—the way the mail stops coming, and her scent fades from the pillows and even from the clothes in her closet and drawers. Gradually, you accumulate the parts of her that are gone. Just when the day comes—when there’s a particular missing part that overwhelms you with the feeling that she’s gone, forever—there comes another day, and another specifically missing part.”
― John Irving

“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o-er wrought heart and bids it break.”
― William Shakespeare

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