10 NEVER ENGAGE IN BATTLES WITH WEAKER OPPONENTS

CODE OF HONOR

The Code of Honor contains 15 tenets that we strive to live by. It is intended to reflect some basic core values that all the men can rally behind, support and use as a benchmark for the ways of being we can expect from one another.


NEVER ENGAGE IN BATTLES WITH WEAKER OPPONENTS

The Wood chosen to symbolize this tenet is Cottonwood – The trunk of the cottonwood is used in the Lakota Sioux’ sacred Sun Dance ceremony. In the Sun Dance, the Lakota warrior relinquishes any battles he has with weaker opponent and takes on the strongest of all foes, his own fears, as a sacrifice to his people.

The Symbol chosen to embody this tenet is Water – One of the most receptive of all elements, water will take on solid rock as its opponent and with persistence, eventually wear it away to nothing.

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Definitions

Weak – The dictionary has no less than 18 different variables under the word weak. Suffice it to say that the definitions are broad enough to cover virtually any type of opponent.

On the surface, the logic behind this tenet is simple. There is no honor in battle, whether you win or lose if your opponent is obviously weaker than you. But what makes an opponent weaker? Children are obvious examples of weaker opponents in every sense of the word. But what about women? Obviously engaging in physical contact with a woman would violate this tenet, but what about a battle of wills? Is there really any honor in such a battle even if you were to win? Therefore, ask yourself a question when you find yourself about to engage in a battle. Is this a worthy opponent? Is this someone who will make me stronger from the battle or am I merely engaged to satisfy my ego, quell my anger, and assert my power?

In many martial arts, combatants are trained to use the strength or weight of their opponents against them. In many strategic battles out manned troops will prevail by going directly into the stronghold of their enemy. Often, where we feel the strongest, we are most vulnerable. Because it is where we are the least vigilant.

I often watch my two dogs play with each other. One is an 80 pound Labradoodle, who is seven years old. The other is a two year-old, 40 pound Springer spaniel. The springer will be relentless at nipping at the bigger dog’s heels and continually goading him until the bigger dog has had enough and he starts playing roughly and physically dominating the smaller dog. At that point, the little dog does a very simple thing; he lies on his back and exposes his belly. The bigger dog stops immediately and goes back to sleeping in the sun. Of the two, I consider the Springer to be stronger not physically but in his ability to know when he is in over his head and give in. Conversely, the Labradoodle will just keep going and going until he is exhausted or hurts himself, which he does often.

So it is not always in size or physical prowess that the temerity of you opponent can be measured. It is in the degree in which they know themselves.

Before you engage in any battle, look your opponent in the eye. Look deep into their soul. Honor their strength, expose your weakness, and then let the games begin.

Howard Spierer